Parenting involves figuring out how to balance quite a few things while making them all work to the best of our abilities, right?
If you are a parent, I am sure you do agree with me that career and work, the kids and every aspect of their lives, other family commitments, responsibilities toward the community, etc are all a part of our lives and need to be paid attention to. Keeping it all together can get overwhelming and requires planning especially if you are someone who likes to make sure important needs are met.
I am a firm believer in focusing on your priorities and finding productive ways to make them work. All three of my kids are active in sports; so one of my priorities as a parent (like many others) is to support them the best way I can. This amongst other things, means driving them to their practices, trainings, and games and events.
Making the time to do so can be a challenge because for each kid, these activities add up to several hours and days of the week.
So how do I manage to do it? First let me say, it's tough for most parents (including moi). You may wish to be there for your babies but your work hours are not flexible enough.
In fact, just last week I was speaking to a 23 year old and her mom who were impressed by my son's school baseball activities. The 23-year old lady expressed that while younger, she had had dreams of participating in high school sports, but her mother (a single parent) had always been working, so there was nobody to take her to practice and for games. Eventually she had dropped out of sport activities. I could see the mom's face fall as she apologized to her child, explaining that work had prevented her from being there as the bills needed to be paid. While this is the reality for many parents, many others manage to find ways to plunge in and be there.
In my case, I am an entrepreneur. What I have managed to do is arrange my days such that I do most of my work during the early hours of the day, so that by 4 or 5pm, I am able to dedicate time to the kids. This is not often easy because certain clients are only available later in the evening and there are many days when there still remains much work to be done by the time I have to shut down my computer. However nothing is set on stone, so we find a way to make it work, right?
Also, I do take advantage of any free time at my disposal to achieve something important. For example, while the kids are practicing, training or during those minutes before their games start, I sit in the car and engage in the following…
- I respond to client emails using my mobile device and also return phone calls.
- I assess the day so far and see what's left on my to-do-list.
- I set up immediate goals and plans to "get it done".
- I update my social media pages (*wink)
- I take this time to study for school, or read up on persons I am planning to interview for DUNIA Magazine, jotting down notes.
- I write up content for the blog or for my Youtube Channel
- Sometimes, I just sit there thinking and rearranging strategies in my mind.
So you see, this time is not often wasted. It's like shooting two birds with one stone – I am there for the kids, while also taking care of business.
When you approach parental responsibilities this way, you are less likely to feel overwhelmed. In fact, it helps you feel productive.
Parenting is a blessing, more so because the kids grow up super fast… and every opportunity to support them should be considered priceless.
I hope that if you are a parent reading this blog post, it inspires you. Remember that if I can do it, you can do it also.
Cheers to your Success!