Spontaneity Pays Off. How it did with ‘Why African Men Make Good Husbands’

 "Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit." – E. E. Cummings


Hello Face2Face with Success readers. I hope you are having an excellent day.

Let's talk spontaneity! As a writer, one keeps a close eye on performance. I continue to be very appreciative of how an article I wrote almost 5 years ago is still widely read today.

I remember very clearly the day this article was written and published on DUNIA Magazine. It was on a Saturday morning in October of 2010. Less than 2 hours was all it took to conceive and put my thoughts on paper. I didn't have to "think about it", plan it, or sleep on it. I was totally freestyling. Those thoughts as shared were 100% genuine and spontaneous. I did not have to do any research, at no time was I thinking about being politacally correct. The information simply flowed. 

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While 5 Reasons Why African Men Make Good Husbands has been a pretty controversial piece (as you can see from some of the comments, and from discussions I have had with friends who read it), it also in a way captures the essence of my culture as an African (which makes it special). Reactions (from feedback I have personally received) have ranged from some readers feeling insulted and even betrayed by it, to those who have felt a sense pride.

Whether in defence, or simply to expand on the thought process behind the piece, I have had to on several occassions, explain that it was inspired by the man who raised me – my dad. To me, he examplified those qualities and more – in how he treated us his children and other family members. Many uncles, brothers, cousins, friends, who have had a huge influence on my life examplify these traits as well.

While many who do not agree with the article have even questioned the genuinity of my thoughts, others have absolutely loved it. As a writer, I truly appreciate every reaction and comment — in the hopes that dialogue is sparked and progress is made in how we treat each other. 

Today, I would like to encourage you to freestyle in your work, to be yourself, to be spontaneous sometimes and to let the real you shine forth. To keep things simple and to let it flow.

Tapping into our innermost selves leads us to fountains of creativity flowing inside of us. It is when we try too hard to be perfect, to meet the standards others have set, that we become deflated. But when we maintain originality and give ourselves permission to be creative, wonderful results spring forth. Dare to be spontaneous.

Cheers to your success!

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