“Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it.” – Tori Amos
Some months ago, we noticed a leak at home. The leak had not been in plain sight, so by the time we noticed, that area of the house had suffered some serious water damage – water was seaping out of surrounding floors and walls.
The gentleman who handles our maintainance work was out of town on a family emergency, so hubby went out to the store and got some DIY sealants and other materials to fix the leak as directed by him.
The leak did not stop completely after the work had been done, so we stuck a bucket underneath the pipe to catch dripping water while awaiting the plumber's return. This bucket was emptied out constantly. Some days passed, then we noticed that water was no longer dripping from the pipe. The problem had been fixed. However, we were now left to deal with the resulting damage.
Recently, I began to think about this experience and the life lessons we can draw from it.
1) Nothing stays hidden forever. Our struggles may not always be obvious to those around us. But as long as they remain unattended to, they will fester into wounds that one day shall become visible.
We all deal with personal challenges – some we share with those we trust, others we keep well packaged and carefully hidden away — you know, those skeletons in our closets. These are not noticeable to those viewing us from the outside in. And sometimes we ourselves become so caught up in the presenting of a perfect persona that we forget that which is most important – our happiness.
What we can learn from today's post is that, though issues may be hidden in the dark corners of our lives, their results can not remain hidden forever. Just like the water began to seep out through floors and walls, these issues will surface in one way or the other: in our speech, our countenance, our attitudes toward others, in the choices we make, etc.
We don't have to wait for serious damage to occur before we take action, we have the power to tackle things right now. It all starts with a decision, an acknowledgement that something is wrong.
Part of our success journey is to identify those aspects of our lives that are unsavory and then seek to find solutions that lead to wholesomeness and happiness. Whether it's fear, addiction, anger, abuse, past failures — do not be afraid to face them. There is help out there. Change is possible. Do not wait until the damage is too far gone before taking action.
"Nevertheless, I will bring health and healing to it; I will heal my people and will let them enjoy abundant peace and security."
– Jeremiah 33:6
2) Complete healing takes time. The process of fixing did not result in immediate curbing of the leak. If a professional plumber had come in immediately, we may have missed the lesson here. But what became obvious is that, although my husband got the sealants and changed some parts (I'm not aware of what exactly he did), it was at least some days before the leakage completely stopped.
What this shows is that wounds are not healed instantaneously. Whether it's emotional hurt caused by a loved one, betrayal by a friend, a business loss or even flunking an exam — time is often needed to mend a broken heart, a bruised soul, a disappointed mind, hurt feelings.
Do not be afraid to take time to heal and also importantly, give others time they need to heal.
"The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. " – John 10:10
Although we are often expected to "forgive and forget" instantly, the reality is that asking for forgiveness after damage has been done is just the first step in a long process of healing. Time is needed for recovery. Instantaneous remedies such as drugs/medications, or even 'success strategies' and pep talk by life coaches and motivational speakers do not miraculously work just like that! *Click of a finger*
I write this post to remind everyone that some things in life need time to fall into place. Patience with ourselves and with others is a virtue. We should also be careful to not inflict damage on others that may be irreparable as in Nails In The Fence.
Cheers to your success!
(Leaking pipe image courtesy parfittplumbing.com)