Be the LIGHT


I will start with this quote from Gloria Steinem which puts into perspective today’s discussion: Self-esteem isn’t everything, it’s just that there’s nothing without it.”

Self-esteem can very simply be equated to self-confidence. How an individual feels about themselves translates directly into their ability to perform effectively and optimally. A person with high self-esteem believes in themselves, feels good about who they are, where they’ve been and where they are heading.

One of the things a leader focuses on as they grow and achieve goal after goal, is building their self-esteem as they become more confident.

Then something happens to some ‘leaders’ as they get to positions of power or authority, where other people are looking up to them – they become so in love with themselves, that they take on the role of specialized self-esteem destroyer to others. I have realized that there’s something narcissistic about success, some folks begin to think that the world revolves around them – they are the greatest and nobody comes close. It could be the business owner, teacher, the parent, the spouse, the child, the manager  or supervisor at work, the network marketing distributor at a higher pin level, etc. You can recognize them by their language: “You are not good enough; you can’t do this; this person is better than you; you are not so smart; why doesn’t anyone get it? etc.” They have become condescending.

Such talk is destructive to the listener because their subconscious mind absorbs it and begins to unconsciously act on it. Avoid such folks, they are poisonous. Moreover, do not let this be you.

Great leaders in any field understand that helping build a person’s self-esteem is one of the greatest motivational tools known to man. People perform better when they feel good about themselves. When you empower others by uplifting them and making them feel good about themselves, it makes you feel good about yourself also.

Are you a self-esteem builder or destroyer?
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2 Comments

  1. Time was when we were infants under the care of our parents. They knew nothing about the impact of their stance on several issues to our psychic framework later in life. To them, they were just giving us the best training; to be productive men and women in this world; and to be ready for life’s uncertain reality. They used to scold us, punish us, rebuke us; and even sometimes disgrace us in public when we err. Our relatives do not help matters: Some of our uncles, elder brothers, step sisters, brothers etc used the African communal social structure to perpetrate abusive acts to our innocent minds. And then we grew up with that.Some of us have outgrown the negative impacts of these unwholesome acts. While some of us are still under the negative spell of the psychic imprints of the hash, rash, and brash upbringings. It is in the light of the afore analyzed scenario that I find your article very apt, incisive, concise and instructive. You may not know how enriching it is. You may not also know how many anguish you have eased. You may not know how much impact you are exerting in making this world a better place. But it is appreciative and I appreciate.Keep it up. The world is getting better; thanks to people of your ilk.

  2. Time was when we were infants under the care of our parents. They knew nothing about the impact of their stance on several issues to our psychic framework later in life. To them, they were just giving us the best training; to be productive men and women in this world; and to be ready for life’s uncertain reality. They used to scold us, punish us, rebuke us; and even sometimes disgrace us in public when we err. Our relatives do not help matters: Some of our uncles, elder brothers, step sisters, brothers etc used the African communal social structure to perpetrate abusive acts to our innocent minds. And then we grew up with that. Some of us have outgrown the negative impacts of these unwholesome acts. While some of us are still under the negative spell of the psychic imprints of the hash, rash, and brash upbringings. It is in the light of the afore analyzed scenario that I find your article very apt, incisive, concise and instructive. You may not know how enriching it is. You may not also know how many anguish you have eased. You may not know how much impact you are exerting in making this world a better place. But it is appreciative and I appreciate.Keep it up. The world is getting better; thanks to people of your ilk.

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